늘 목표가 있었는데, 최근 3년 정도를 목표없이 지내온 것 같다.
예전의 꿈들이 진짜 꿈이었는지도 확실하지 않아졌다.
예전에 친구가 '무기력 할 때 해결하는 방법'을 네이버에 검색하는 모습이 인상 깊었던 나는
유투브에 목표가 없을 때 라고 검색했다.
아래의 조던 피터슨 영상이 나왔다.
장황하게 이야기하기에 여러번 돌려보니
humility 한 단어가 마음에 꽂혔다.
원하는 게 없다면 어떻게 하죠? 하는 관중의 질문에 대한 조던 피터슨의 대답 영상
How do you do that if you don't know where you want to go?
You have to look around you, within your sphere of influence, like the direct sphere of infuence and fix the things that announce themselves as in need of repair. What's important is that you learn how to distinguish between Chaos and Order . Then you can go do it! and that makes you just incrementally stronger.
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Hi, dortor Peterson. My question is I know you stated in the last, um, lecture that the importance for setting aims in life and, um, to kind of have goals to work to worktowards, right? My question was, um, where do you, where do you, how do you do that if you don't know where you want to go because that's kind of where I got stuck on your future authoring program, because ...
Yep, yep, okay. That's that's a good question. That's a really good question. I think it is an echo echoed to some degree in the structure of the biblical stories in this manner. So there is this notion in the all trasmentthis Old Testament that morality is following a sequence of prohibitions. There's a bunch of bad things you shouldn't do and then basically you are good enough. And I think there's a wisdom in that, and I think therethat's kind of worldwhere children start, right? You, you, I mean, I love children and all that but therethey are crazy little creatures and they need to be, you know, sibilizedcivilized. Properly But partly what you do is you lay prohibitions on them and mostly what you trying to do is lay prohibitions on them for the behaviors that if they manifested would make their life miserable.
So I have another chapter in this book that I writing called 'Don't let your children do anything that makes you dislike', and the idea there is that your job as a parent is to help your children become the sort of four-year-old that adults genuinely smile at when they come into a room, because that makes the entire social environment both truthful for and welcoming. And so your job is to make them desirable social beings, and a lot of them is prohibition.
Okay, and there is this ethial transformation and it happens to some degree in the prophetic tradition, where there's a spirit that seem, in some sense, to rise above the law. But there's a real transformation between the Old Testament and the New Testament, because the Old Testament is prohibition and the New Testament is what here's the good things you do once you're more than merely prohibiting yourself from impulsive sin, let's say. There's a positive good to be accomplished. What you might say "What I don't know what the positive good is?" Fair enough, man. So this is why this thing that I've said to people, has become this crazy internet meme, but that's to clean up your room. Which is a lot more useful than people think. It's a lot harder, too, but the first thing you do I think, and I learned this in part from Solzhenitsyn. When he was trying to iron out his soul when he was in the gulag because he was trying to figure out how he got there, how he contributed to how we got there.
I think what you have to do and then this is part of humility is you have to look around you, within your sphere of influence, like the direct sphere of influence and fix the things that announce themselves as in need of repair, and those are often small things. You know, and they can be like your room. Put it in order, because the thing is it doesn't exactly so important that your room is in order. Although it is. What's important is that you learn how to distinguish between Chaos and Order, and to be able to act in a manner that produces order, and in most households, there's a hundred things that could be done, to just make it less hideous and horrible. And so, practicing that is it's a real useful form of meditation, and it's also I think it's a divine act, because you're taking chaos, and you know, if you pay attention even to a room, it's so interesting I learned because I renovated many places now, tried to make them beautiful. One of the things that I've really learned is that even if you own a structure unless you investigated all the nooks and crannies and clean them up and put your own imprint on them and made them yours. They're not yours. The mere fact of physical ownership doesn't make them yours. You have to establish a dynamic relationship with the objects, before they're actually yours. And I think you can do something as simple as just sit on your bed and think "Okay, there's probably like 5 things I could do today, so that tomorrow morning is slightly better than this morning was at least or at least I'm not falling behind." and those are usually be like having to eat a toad in the morning, right? It's not going to be something you want to do. There'll be things you're trying to avoid. They're snakes, essentially. But if you ask yourself like you're asking someone which I think is a form of prayer. If you ask yourself instead of telling yourself, you know, "What is it that I could do to set things more right, today, that I would actually do?" It's usually some small thing because you're not that discipline, you know. Then you can go do it! and then you put the world together a little more, when you do that, and that spreads out, but you also construct yourself into something that's better able to call order forth from chaos. And that makes you just incrementally stronger! and then the next day, you can maybe take on a slightly larger tasks, and like you get the benefit of compound interest if you do that. It's a tremendously powerful technique, and they think if you do that, at some point, instead of just having to fix things up that are not good, you'll start to get a glimmer of the positive things that you could do, you know, the positive things that you could do that would actually constitute a vision. That's what I would recommend.
Thank you.
All right. Good night.